It can be frightening to entertain the question of whether or not it is time for you to file for divorce. It may comfort you to know that studies support the reality that even spouses within marriages which withstand the tests of time tend to contemplate divorce now and then. In addition, it is important to note that numerous recent studies also support the idea that most spouses who end up filing for divorce tend to contemplate doing so for many months before actually doing so.

What do these two conclusions mean practically? First, if you are thinking of leaving your marriage, you are not necessarily going to do so. Second, if you are thinking about leaving your marriage, you will likely process this decision for some time before filing for divorce, if you ultimately decide to do so. Unless you are in an abusive situation, you likely do not need to make this decision a rushed one. You can take whatever time you need to evaluate whether continuing in your marriage is the healthiest choice for you.

As you take time to process whether divorce is the healthiest option for you, consider whether your marriage is likely to become healthier and happier in the future. For example, it is important for spouses to demonstrate mutual respect for one another. If your marriage lacks this critical element, are you and your spouse willing and able to work on restoring mutual respect?

Only you can answer whether or not your relationship has run its course in ways that make divorce the healthiest option for you. As you attempt to answer this question, please understand that speaking with a family law attorney about your legal options does not commit you to any particular course of action. Being informed about your options does not commit you to any one specifically.

Source: The Huffington Post, “6 Signs It’s Time To Leave Your Marriage,” Rosalind Sedacca, July 6, 2015