If you are currently navigating a divorce, you likely understand that the legal, emotional and physical processes of dissolving a marriage can be stressful, draining and seemingly endless. As a result, it is important to check in with yourself throughout your divorce process in order to better ensure that your actions are focused upon achieving a healthy future.

Divorce can be disorienting. For example, it may take months to get used to sleeping alone. Your physical, emotional and legal identities have long been tied to your spouse’s. It is therefore understandable that a newly single reality can take a lot of getting used to. In addition, the senses of loss and grief that many individuals grapple with during divorce can be uniquely challenging to deal with. It can be easy to feel like grief and loss are the driving forces in your life during the divorce process.

We have previously written about the fact that while it is both normal and healthy to grieve during divorce, it is also important not to get so bogged down in your negative emotions that they begin to control your actions. If this unfortunate series of events occurs, your negative emotions may end up significantly influencing your divorce settlement and may compromise your future wellbeing.

One of the greatest tools you can use in guarding against having your negative emotions rule your divorce process is consistently checking in with yourself and refocusing your divorce generally. Please check back within a few days, as we will be continuing our discussion of this subject in our next blog post.

Source: The Huffington Post, “7 Resolutions to Having a Great Newly-Divorced Year,” Bari Zell Weinberger, Jan. 13, 2015