The word “narcissist” gets thrown around in American culture. As we have become more connected via social media and simultaneously more disconnected from genuine interactions with others free of electronic devices, a culture of “me, me, me” has arguably become increasingly influential.

However, narcissism is an actual personality disorder. When this word is used in its clinical context, it describes a “condition in which people have an excessive sense of self-importance, an extreme preoccupation with themselves, and lack of empathy for others,” according to a basic Google search. Obviously more nuanced clinical definitions exist. But anyone who lives with a true narcissist likely needs no further explanation to recognize these characteristics in his or her partner.

If you are seeking a divorce from a true narcissist, please seek support and legal counsel as quickly as possible. Educate yourself on the actual personality disorder that your spouse suffers from and seek out advice from a legal expert and a counselor on how to best progress in your divorce safely and within a healthy mental space.

Your spouse’s narcissism may make it difficult for you to feel like you can achieve a fair divorce settlement. However, trained professionals can help you secure the best outcome possible under your unique circumstances. Narcissism is a word that is currently thrown around casually. But narcissistic personality disorder is anything but a casual reality. Please seek support and expert advice if you are divorcing someone suffering from this condition. You deserve a fair settlement regardless of what your spouse may say or think about the matter.

Source: The Huffington Post, “Road Map for Exiting a Relationship With a Narcissist,” Melissa Schenker, July 11, 2014